The Covenant and the Connection: A Faith-Based Marriage Class
This class is designed for couples who want to move beyond the superficial “marriage check-up” and dive into a deep, transformative experience that honors both the sacredness of their covenant and the clinical reality of their relationship. Facilitated by Christopher Lund, a licensed therapist at Cedar Tree Counseling, this class is where spiritual devotion meets psychological mastery.
Beyond “Sunday School” Advice: A Clinical Integration
Many couples feel a gap between the spiritual ideals they hear on Sunday and the relational friction they experience on Monday. You may have been told to “just love more” or “pray harder,” but you haven’t been given the practical, neurological tools to manage a fight or rebuild intimacy.
Our faith-based marriage class, led by Christopher Lund, bridges this gap. We believe that God designed marriage to be a site of profound healing and growth, and that modern psychology provides the map to understand how that design works in our brains and bodies. This isn’t just a lecture; it is a clinical workshop for your soul.
The Four Pillars of the Curriculum
Christopher Lund has curated a curriculum that integrates the most effective evidence-based modalities—such as the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—with a robust Christian worldview.
1. The Foundation of Covenantal Safety
We explore the difference between a “contract” and a “covenant.” While a contract is about protection, a covenant is about felt safety. We use attachment theory to help you understand how to become each other’s “safe harbor,” reflecting the secure attachment we are invited to have with the Divine.
2. Mastering the Art of Spiritual Attunement
Communication is more than words; it is the ability to “read” your partner’s spirit. We teach the clinical skill of Attunement—learning how to notice, validate, and respond to your partner’s emotional and spiritual “bids” for connection.
3. Conflict as a Catalyst for Growth
In this class, we move away from the idea that conflict is “sinful” and instead view it as an opportunity for refinement. We provide a structured framework to de-escalate arguments, ensuring that your “flesh” doesn’t take the lead when your “spirit” wants to connect.
4. Sexual and Emotional Intimacy
We address the “Song of Solomon” reality of marriage—that physical and emotional intimacy are sacred. We provide a shame-free, clinically informed space to discuss how to revitalize your connection and protect the “secret garden” of your marriage.
The Integration: Science in the Service of Faith
We utilize specific psychological models to help you live out your spiritual values:
| The Spiritual Value | The Clinical Tool | The Result |
| Forgiveness | The Gottman “Aftermath of a Fight” Protocol | Moving past “forgetting” to true reconciliation and understanding. |
| Self-Sacrifice | Identifying “Core Needs” vs. “Areas of Flexibility” | Learning how to give without losing your identity or breeding resentment. |
| Patience | Physiological Self-Soothing & The Window of Tolerance | Managing your own nervous system so you can respond with grace. |
| Unity | Creating Shared Meaning & Rituals of Connection | Building a family culture that reflects your shared faith and mission. |
Meet Your Facilitator: Christopher Lund
As a therapist at Cedar Tree Counseling, Christopher Lund brings a unique blend of clinical expertise and a heart for the Church. He understands the pressures facing modern Christian families in Tulsa—from the “busy-ness” of church life to the complexities of parenting in a digital age. His approach is warm, direct, and deeply rooted in the belief that every marriage is capable of restoration when given the right tools and a sturdy foundation.
“A strong marriage isn’t the absence of struggle; it’s the presence of a resilient bond. We aren’t aiming for a relationship that never faces a storm; we are building a ship that knows how to navigate the waves. My goal is to help you find the ‘gold’ in your partner again, using both the wisdom of the Word and the insights of the mind.” — Christopher Lund
What to Expect from the Class
- A Safe, Confidential Environment: This is a place for honest exploration, not for “looking perfect.”
- Practical Homework: You will leave each session with “Connection Experiments”—small, actionable steps to try at home.
- Interactive Learning: Expect a mix of teaching, private couple exercises (no “oversharing” in a group required), and Q&A.
- A Roadmap for the Future: You won’t just “feel better” for a week; you will build a sustainable “Relationship 2.0.”
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Invest in Your Covenant. Strengthen Your Connection.
Your marriage is the most important earthly relationship you will ever have. Don’t settle for “fine” when you were designed for “flourishing.” Whether you are looking to prepare for a lifetime together or seeking to revitalize a long-term bond, our Faith-Based Marriage Class offers the expert clinical and spiritual guidance you need.
Join Christopher Lund at Cedar Tree Counseling in Tulsa, OK, for an experience that will change the trajectory of your relationship. Space is limited for our upcoming cohorts to ensure an intimate and impactful experience. Contact Cedar Tree Counseling today to register for the next class or to learn more about how we can support your journey toward a more connected, Christ-centered marriage.